KEEPING OUR EGOS IN CHECK"The world is burning in the fire of desire, in greed, arrogance and excessive ego." ~ Sri Guru Granth Sahib
******************************************************* In this Issue of Let-Us-Relate! newsletter:-) 1. WE KEEP OUR EGOS IN CHECK: THE CORE OF THE EGO 2. A CHALLENGE FOR YOU 3. EGO QUOTATIONS
******************************************************** 1. THE CORE OF THE EGO: WITH EXTRACTS FROM EKCHART TOLLE'S BEST SELLING BOOK: 'A NEW EARTH' ******************************************************** 1. The ego needs to feel superior to others People with big egos often have a need to prove their superiority over others. They often try and level with people they feel are above them (usually those they feel threatened by/around) by pulling them down and criticizing them at every opportunity. The ego is energized by this critical behaviour and grows even bigger when it does so.
2. The ego likes to enlarge itself by association Big egos like to create a feeling of importance by associating themselves with certain people or certain groups of people.
3. The ego loves to complain The ego hates everything in the present - it hates the present moment - not realizing that life is all about the present. It wants to be somewhere else, with somebody else, doing something else - anything other than the present. By constantly complaining, it makes itself right and others wrong, which makes it feel good - but only temporarily - which is why it never stops complaining about others. When it complains, it is normally unconscious - unaware that it is complaining because that has become second nature to it. People around big egos must learn not to take it personally because it does not know what it is doing. Recognize the insanity in it and you will be free of taking it personally.
4. The ego does not easily adapt to changes Anyone who loves to complain will complain about change too - they will resist the status quo, they will also resist change. When things do not go according to expectation, when other people or situations are not as helpful or cooperative, instead of accepting the situation as is and becoming one with it, big egos react, often aggressively, against the situation and in the process sabotage its own work. People with big egos are really their own worst enemies.
5. Resenting other people's successes The ego is bitter about everything, including others' achievements. As far as it is concerned, another 's success takes something away from its own. The ego fails to recognize that, the more you resent others for what they have achieved, the more you resent your own success.
6. It sees others' mistakes without recognizing its own The extent of the ego's inability to recognize itself is staggering and unbelievable. It will do exactly what it hates others for doing. Its actions are always justified when pointed out.
7. It is always "Against" The ego creates unhappiness for itself by being constantly against something or someone. It always eagerly awaits the next thing to react against, to form a fight about, to resent, to be agitated about. It is always about 'people doing things to me'.
8. Always wanting more It is the nature of human beings and every growing being to want more from life. That is synonymous with getting better and making life more enjoyable for yourself and for others. But it is a different kind of wanting when the ego is involved. The ego is never satisfied, it always wants more. When it gets, it quickly starts to want even more - thus permanently living an unfulfilled life.
******************************************************** 1. BE CHALLENGED - RISE ABOVE EGO ******************************************************** Everytime you find yourself complaining about another's attitude or behaviour - stop and assess your own Everytime you catch yourself wanting to prove something to someone, step back and check your ego.
3. EGO QUOTES ********************************************************* "If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It's very important to be aware of them every time they come up." ~ Deepak Chopra (Indian ayurvedic Physician and Author, b.1947)
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